The ringing of the alarm clock wakes you up. Your body is heavy and every limb feels like a burden on yourself. As you slowly come to be more conscious of your surroundings , your head is already filling with thousands of thoughts building up for you to realise that it’s way too hard to get out of bed .
The burden of having to start another day like the ones before or maybe feeling dejected because you know there is something really big coming up today or the next days can be debilitating .
But why does it sometimes feel impossible to physically leave the bed?
Of course this can come from many reasons and there are a lot of things to consider when talking about mental health issues. These are just some of the reasons that I have found to be part of the hurdle that is waking up each day and tackling the day as it comes.
Imagine it like turning on your PC and it starts to boot up. It often happens that a lot of programs still need some time to calibrate before you can start using them, but if you start opening programs quickly it might take longer for the PC to get ready or it even crashes if there is too much happening at once. It goes the same way for our brains. Before we can even start the day and we can cater to our physical needs we are already bombarded with deadlines and tasks to do for the whole day. This feeling can become so overwhelming that the day already feels too much to handle.
We might not do this consciously but our brain is always working behind the scenes even when we just sit and think of something but our brain is raking itself to provide a steady thought process . When we wake up and we already know the day is going to be stressful subconsciously our brain is already worrying about all the things we need to do.
As we start to think of all the big tasks we have to get done on that day one can get into a frenzy and realising that there is not enough time to get everything done.
Because between the big tasks you may need to get done there are a lot of small tasks that need to be accomplished and we also need to eat, drink and take care of ourselves. The problem is that most of the time when one tries to prioritise between taking care of their body and mind and getting tasks done that need to get done, we will choose the latter .
For example if you know you have an assignment due this evening, eating and taking breaks will be pushed to the side until the task is done which can lead to unscheduled, unhealthy and very quick eating because there is not enough time to to think and pre-plan what meals you intake.
While pondering on the fact that the day is filled with tasks you may also realise that the day is way too short to get everything done. Instead of splitting the tasks up and maybe pushing them to another time we’re often pressured by the boss or teachers or even ourselves to get more done in a day than what is actually healthy.
The day starts to get even more cluttered with assignments, deadlines and other things to do. If we’re focusing on something like school work or university or work in general we need to keep in mind that there is always something else to do like groceries, helping or taking care of somebody or something that also needs to be put into the schedule. So ultimately, we are already spread very thin and it feels impossible to accomplish that much in 24-hours.
We accumulate all of these thoughts and realise bit by bit that this day will be too much to handle. Sometimes it happens a lot of times in a row. Sometimes these kinds of days come in a bit, but they have one thing in common: we would much rather stay in bed.
With social media and technology on a high-rise it is easy to stay in bed. You can check your timeline or maybe your schedule on your phone and get even more dejected over the fact that this day is probably going to be hard to tackle. It starts with a vicious cycle of checking out a post or a text and not wanting to go out of bed.
In the end it’s not something physical that’s keeping you from leaving your bed, but it is the pressure of starting a day with no time for yourself or things you enjoy.
If you do manage to get out of bed late after maybe checking your phone again or sleeping another half hour just to not think about what is lying ahead, everything you do starts to have a negative connotation.
Now this does not speak for everyone and not every person feels like this. I’m just trying to give a general idea of what it can be like to shy away from a pressuring day. I am also not talking about people who may be suffering from mental health issues that are very severe and need professional care. If you feel like the pressure is building up to a point where you can’t help yourself please take care of yourself and talk to a friend or a trusted person to get the assistance you need and deserve.
Now that we’ve managed to accumulate the points of why it is so hard to get out of bed, let’s get to the second part of this post’s title. Why is it ok that we sometimes can’t get out of bed?
If we’re talking about this problem as something that happens from time to time or in a period of your life in which you are very stressed it is firstly very normal for you to feel that way. Especially now and the times of Covid-19 where our lives have been flipped upside down it is perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed.
In this current society we are pressured and driven to achieve ultimate efficiency. We’re supposed to work harder, stronger and faster with the best outcomes. Mistakes are discouraged and deadlines get stricter, because we live in a world in which machines are a lot quicker than we are so we have to limp behind them.
That is why it is so important for us to take care of our mental health in these pressing times, because we cannot work without taking breaks and having time for ourselves. Every person is different of course. There are some people who can work very hard for long periods of time without needing time to recharge, and there are others that need consistent breaks. There is no right or wrong, as we humans are very different from each other and each individual has a set of their own quirks.
Another reason why this is technically normal is that our body reacts to waves of stress. When we feel stressed our body reacts accordingly. Our skin can break out and we can get headaches. The stomach can react to stress and change in weather such as other parts of us because our body is very versatile but still gets used to an environment quickly.
Change can come in different ways and bring varying degrees of stress to us.
In other words, daily life alone can sometimes be an excruciating burden to bear. The important thing now is to look ahead, try to come back from this problem and change our daily routines to make ourselves feel better mentally and physically, so we can start each day with new found motivation.
Well then, until next time!